My world changed drastically. I was no longer a little girl with bows, toys and dolls. My siblings were a nightmare. My friends at school were only to whisper about us. We were unwelcome into their homes. A Society was to recognize this as disgraceful, and were terrified. Rarely was there a murder in those days. The closeness of family ties was just that. So, we were the overnight outcasts. I remember hearing an old uncle at the funeral quietly gossiping with neighbors in front of the casket. He said, "How can she cry over him like that, He ran around all the time on her". Not a care that I was sitting right next to him . I ran to tell my mom what he said. Of course, I was lying! He said so!
The righteousness of the chosen in a society that can strangle the life out of you. Thankfully, we had Grandma and Grandpa. They were immigrants from Italy. And Grampa would tell us stories of his life back in the old country. He had a sheep farm and dreamed of coming to America. He told of how long it took to arrive here on the boat. A child born on the boat after what was almost a year on board. Then docking at Ellis Island and being detained for almost six months. Disease control, small pox, innoculations But most of all a pride that someone was going to pick them up as their sponsors in America. Times have certainly changed. And they were humble and grateful for the hopes of their future in a land that promised so many opportunities.
I loved my grandparents, they were so cuddly. Gramps had a wide moustache, almost white and he would sort of spit on the ends of it to give the appearance of two points in an antennea effect. Grandma loved to cook you could smell her sauce and meatballs throughout the neighborhood. She used to wear an apron all the time. And in the little pocket of it, there would be pieces of candy for us. She would say "Come see whats in this pocket" And with a quick smile I would rush over to her in hopes of getting only the red ones! And the times when I would cry I would lay my head on grandma's cushey lap and she would pat my back and whisper, "I know little suzy, taint fair, taint fair"
Friday, April 6, 2007
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
The Englishman
What I remember of him up until the age of 8 yrs old. My dad was over 6' tall, handsome, English decendent with blonde hair and blue eyes. Full of fun and a lust for life and women. Couldnt keep that man down and he couldnt stop drinking. There were four brothers and two sisters. I dont know how they all found each other after being placed in an orphanage when they were youngsters. Never growing up together they were all alcoholics and each one had a terrible life and death. My Mom used to tell the story how an old bitty, wealthy aunt in England put a curse on the family. With that story thats a trail to live by, especially if they drank the curse would follow. Some of those old people sure knew how to screw with someone. So, one of those especially sneak nights out on the town with his girlfriend. The one who was going to leave her husband, and he who wasnt about to give up his ravishing slut were caught in a bar drinking their blues away. Husband raging with jealousy walks in with his pistol, doesnt shoot his wife, of course shoots dad. Not once but three times. Two in the back and One in the chest as he turns around to face his accuser. He lay in ICU for three days, and that woman came up to see him in front of my Mother. I dont understand why she didnt throw her out of that room. In those days children were not allowed in the hospital. I got lucky to see him, because my brother and I were at home playing at the time. We were holding this long piece of string and he was cutting it in pieces until he got to the end and cut off the tip of my finger. Until this day my index finger sticks up to a pointy edge. Anyway, I was whisked off to the emergency room bleeding to death, well it looked like it. The doctor in emergency wanted to stitch it and I wouldnt let him. Then I was promised if I did let him sew up my finger I could go and see daddy in his hospital room .
Through the eyes of a child! There in this huge dark long and wide room , the only light on was the one over his bed. I was only allowed to stand at the doorway. I didnt know why he was there, I only knew he was very sick. I yelled to him and I held up this huge bandaged finger. Daddy, look at me. Look at what Billy did. Daddy will you look, he never did.
Through the eyes of a child! There in this huge dark long and wide room , the only light on was the one over his bed. I was only allowed to stand at the doorway. I didnt know why he was there, I only knew he was very sick. I yelled to him and I held up this huge bandaged finger. Daddy, look at me. Look at what Billy did. Daddy will you look, he never did.
Sunday, April 1, 2007
You Never Asked Me
My Mother was a great woman, she loved us as best she knew how. All four of us, and I was the oldest when my father was brutally murdered at the young age of 29 yrs. old. So, there she was at 28 yrs old and four kids to raise. In those days everyone was poor at least everyone that we knew. The days of depression were never kind to us. Iknow this is a story that I have always wanted to write, but never could! Can you imagine to go a whole lifetime and keep it all inside. All of it, because who really wants to listen to someone else's problems. And better yet, I was embarassed my whole life because of it. Now I have somwhat come this far and I can finally talk about it.
My Mom throughout those hard years would often say to us "I should have given you all up for adoption at that time" The Social Workers asked me if I wanted to but I just couldnt. I always wondered what that would have been like. A new home, a family, food to eat, a bed of my own. What is this adoption thing? Is this an answer for all of us who are basically becoming the "Dysfunctional" galley of madness. How do children cope with this. Fact is they never do and they cry from places where no one is allowed to go. Better yet, we dont even ask you for sympathy or understanding you could never feel how we feel. And yet most do not ask because it takes to much time to deal with the problems that each one of us had and still do. Life doesnt change all that much. A therapist would tell you if you dont get off the train you will ride the same tracks forever. What the hell does Ms. Stanford University Grad know about what it takes if anything to get off the beaten path. And you get beat up enough, its common practice to expect it. AT times I felt like a martyr, I was little Ms Mom and she owned me. You learn how to be independent, secretive of yourself, your feelings and you never step out of the cacoon you made just for you to hide in. That little place that is yours alone, wrapped up as tight as canned spam. I learned to feel very sorry for my mother, she worked two jobs raising us. I took care of my brothers. One who had turned 1yr. old when my father died. Oh yes, I was called to the hospital that night when he was in ICU. Its rather strange how you look at things when you are a kid, you see with your own eyes which is enough of a great picture. Then you listen to the gossip outside of it all. It is the gossip that never leaves you, the sadness of your world dramatically bowling over into torrment. I used to hear her cry every night for over a year. And the most frightening thing that I never forgot is how she nailed down those old windows so no one will get in. Her fears became mine and the lightening and thunder made me run into the closet and still to this day that is where I am in the storm. She was terrified of those electrical storms and would cover the windows with sheets so we wouldnt see that much of it.
Tomorrow, tomorrow
My Mom throughout those hard years would often say to us "I should have given you all up for adoption at that time" The Social Workers asked me if I wanted to but I just couldnt. I always wondered what that would have been like. A new home, a family, food to eat, a bed of my own. What is this adoption thing? Is this an answer for all of us who are basically becoming the "Dysfunctional" galley of madness. How do children cope with this. Fact is they never do and they cry from places where no one is allowed to go. Better yet, we dont even ask you for sympathy or understanding you could never feel how we feel. And yet most do not ask because it takes to much time to deal with the problems that each one of us had and still do. Life doesnt change all that much. A therapist would tell you if you dont get off the train you will ride the same tracks forever. What the hell does Ms. Stanford University Grad know about what it takes if anything to get off the beaten path. And you get beat up enough, its common practice to expect it. AT times I felt like a martyr, I was little Ms Mom and she owned me. You learn how to be independent, secretive of yourself, your feelings and you never step out of the cacoon you made just for you to hide in. That little place that is yours alone, wrapped up as tight as canned spam. I learned to feel very sorry for my mother, she worked two jobs raising us. I took care of my brothers. One who had turned 1yr. old when my father died. Oh yes, I was called to the hospital that night when he was in ICU. Its rather strange how you look at things when you are a kid, you see with your own eyes which is enough of a great picture. Then you listen to the gossip outside of it all. It is the gossip that never leaves you, the sadness of your world dramatically bowling over into torrment. I used to hear her cry every night for over a year. And the most frightening thing that I never forgot is how she nailed down those old windows so no one will get in. Her fears became mine and the lightening and thunder made me run into the closet and still to this day that is where I am in the storm. She was terrified of those electrical storms and would cover the windows with sheets so we wouldnt see that much of it.
Tomorrow, tomorrow
Monday, March 26, 2007
Where Can You Go, While You Worry About Going
First, As in an old John Wayne movie I once saw. His main expressive one liner was LET'S SADDLE UP! Now that this is out of the way of course we are not seriously thinking of heading deep into desert territory with our Palomino Chico and a four barrel shotgun! How easy was that to just get up and gallop out into the sunset. No direction, and no clean duds to pack. At least that is the perspective of how it is filmed.
Primarily in today's world reality is traffic congestion no matter where you go. You worry about driving the freeways, checking in at the airports, being bodily scanned for anything the detector might trigger. Insulin paraphernalia, pacemaker, your underwire bra, syringes for botox and your Gucci bag decorated with studded bullets. The more you think about it the more you worry about going. Especially if you live in Southern California, checking into the Bevery Hills Hotel. Your finest leather luggage packed with Melrose Avenue boutique finery. Nordstrom's finest apparel for sunbathing, and some of the facial scrubs and cosmetics. So far, the cost at the reservation desk checking in has almost left you penniless. Not to worry because you can still wander around Disneyland all day and night for $80.00 per person. Where can you get that kind of entertainment for that price? Of course this does not include the magic rides, and your cost of food - A hamburger at a small price of 12.50 and a drink is 3.00 for a small coke! Now don't worry about lunch or dinner the prices do not get discounted during the day! Just remember to keep walking or you will get trampled on. No seating either, all the benches which aren't many are taken. Its tiring and consuming hanging out all day and into the night, then almost when you wonder why you worried so much, along comes Mickey Mouse and grabs you by the arm like you have been busted for raiding the bird feeder for food.
Yep, back to the ol roundup. Worry about going when there is no place to go, and then worry.
Primarily in today's world reality is traffic congestion no matter where you go. You worry about driving the freeways, checking in at the airports, being bodily scanned for anything the detector might trigger. Insulin paraphernalia, pacemaker, your underwire bra, syringes for botox and your Gucci bag decorated with studded bullets. The more you think about it the more you worry about going. Especially if you live in Southern California, checking into the Bevery Hills Hotel. Your finest leather luggage packed with Melrose Avenue boutique finery. Nordstrom's finest apparel for sunbathing, and some of the facial scrubs and cosmetics. So far, the cost at the reservation desk checking in has almost left you penniless. Not to worry because you can still wander around Disneyland all day and night for $80.00 per person. Where can you get that kind of entertainment for that price? Of course this does not include the magic rides, and your cost of food - A hamburger at a small price of 12.50 and a drink is 3.00 for a small coke! Now don't worry about lunch or dinner the prices do not get discounted during the day! Just remember to keep walking or you will get trampled on. No seating either, all the benches which aren't many are taken. Its tiring and consuming hanging out all day and into the night, then almost when you wonder why you worried so much, along comes Mickey Mouse and grabs you by the arm like you have been busted for raiding the bird feeder for food.
Yep, back to the ol roundup. Worry about going when there is no place to go, and then worry.
Sunday, March 25, 2007
Coffee and chit chat
Ahhh, Sunday morning! I never really liked Sundays, ever. Today, I want to talk about hurting someones feelings. I do not deliberatly try and make fun of those who express deep emotional conversations, on the contrary I am very sympathetic toward the suffering they may be going thru. I understand why people go to a therapist a stranger and pour their hearts out. They really dont give a damn about anyone. Its a profession and they will listen as long as the money holds out. If you find a good one, hang on for dear life they are few and far between. Its like digging in the trash and you may come across a good find.
I have been around a long time, my experience is very much on hand and the cross roads were just that. I do not give advice, I just say what I mean. Its just that most people either wont accept truth or are never really ready to make any changes, ever. And no one soul of a person sees the same thing in the same way. As in, Wow! I never looked at it that way. You may not like me for showing you that, but you will look at it differently. I rarely apologize for saying something I shouldnt have. Its already been said! The change will come from you.
I have been around a long time, my experience is very much on hand and the cross roads were just that. I do not give advice, I just say what I mean. Its just that most people either wont accept truth or are never really ready to make any changes, ever. And no one soul of a person sees the same thing in the same way. As in, Wow! I never looked at it that way. You may not like me for showing you that, but you will look at it differently. I rarely apologize for saying something I shouldnt have. Its already been said! The change will come from you.
Saturday, March 24, 2007
Living your lies
And there are always one lie to balance another lie. We think, express our thoughts and most of all try to be honest with ones self. Unfortunatly, there are those that have no sense of honor and you must tread lightly. Especially if you bump into their blog stations! Their senstivity is their personality and although it may be the quad of a suspicious nature it is what drives them in circles. Unable to see the gray area in any given situation while it can only be black and white. They can cycle a lifetime and never want to see truth. Truth in why or how they feel the way they do. Looking and hoping for reasons they will never find because they are not open to discussions. Case closed! Why not serve meat for dinner, Im not a vegetarian! I am never dissapointed in what I hear, however, I am saddened that a person is permitted to live a life of lies. To be of no value to anyone who is in pain. To absolutely conjure up lies to make themselves look swell. Ignoring all truths so they will never have to answer for anything. They are good at what they do to. Look at you with a pan face and lie to you. As if you are a moron and do not know what ingredients you missed. Yes! Nothing worse than a habitual liar. A murderer kills, but a liar keeps you alive with venom. It shrieks misery and feels nothing. Never a thought given that their lies may hurt the truths of another. They really dont give a crap unless it backfires on them. But they are so good in what they do even if caught in a lie they lie to cover the lie, etc. etc.
Thursday, March 22, 2007
No Clues
I am having a hard time developing just what it is I want to write about. I think to much about it. In the past, I was able to direct myself and the subject value of composing was about someone else. Having met this hands on capability of exposing who I am, what and why I am thinking in a particular way makes me cautious of my words. So, with this in mind I shall plod forward as an old mule. Stubborn in my ways and not having a direction.
I'll think of something. In the meantime I am floundering and my cat is walking across the pathways between the keyboard, the mouse and settling smack in front of the monitor. His bright blue eyes set staring at me and I am distracted.
Tomorrow, tomorrow, says joyce
I'll think of something. In the meantime I am floundering and my cat is walking across the pathways between the keyboard, the mouse and settling smack in front of the monitor. His bright blue eyes set staring at me and I am distracted.
Tomorrow, tomorrow, says joyce
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
Attempting to Quit
Since this has become a huge issue to my health, to quit smoking seems reasonable. Now why would someone who has emphysema even consider committing to cessation of cigarettes?
I travel for 1 1/2 hrs to get to my Pulmonary doctors only to have them tell me in the best interest of breathing capacity would be to STOP now! In fact, for a more honest documentary would be to say this has been going on for the past five years. I realize, I impact the non smokers lungs with the inhalation of my second hand smoke. Thereby, they would die of Lung Cancer and I would consider myself a lucky person. The luck of the draw. So, Why cant I make this commitment for myself and the health of others? I'm weak, I don't understand, I am ignorant. Which is it? I ask myself every day. Is this like a death sentence? Will I perhaps go suicidal? My! sounds like an awful lot of frustration here? At least I can say it out loud and that may be a step forward. Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow.
I travel for 1 1/2 hrs to get to my Pulmonary doctors only to have them tell me in the best interest of breathing capacity would be to STOP now! In fact, for a more honest documentary would be to say this has been going on for the past five years. I realize, I impact the non smokers lungs with the inhalation of my second hand smoke. Thereby, they would die of Lung Cancer and I would consider myself a lucky person. The luck of the draw. So, Why cant I make this commitment for myself and the health of others? I'm weak, I don't understand, I am ignorant. Which is it? I ask myself every day. Is this like a death sentence? Will I perhaps go suicidal? My! sounds like an awful lot of frustration here? At least I can say it out loud and that may be a step forward. Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow.
Monday, March 19, 2007
The Underground
Is there really an underground? Is this the place you hide to be alone?
Sometimes I want to pull the telephone plug right from the wall. I need the vastness of space within my territory and no one to question my tantrums. They are mine alone, I created them because I do not have a gift to control what is around me. When someone says, only you can change things is unremarkable it can be as stable and motionless as a slab of concrete. Do not jump into my world like a salivating monkey. Now if you were invited, and I was gracious of your motivations, because we all are motivated in some way we could have a wonderful playday. My days are not very frivilous and I spend a lot of time writing. Interruptions bother me and I consider myself busy for nonsensical conversations. However, I can be quite the humorist when I am in my special self. I can roll with the best of them. There is no stopping me I can be a dazzling diamond, though not an addict, or an alcoholic. My drinking is as comical as two strikes, youre out! Im a natural, I just cant see drinking or getting high to have fun. Thats me, I dont need to. However, in the life I conjured up for myself, while I believe we all have a vice of steadiness in kind. My will is to handicap the ponies exclusively to the oval circuits ending the dynamics of the limitless bankroll. Each day ends with, tomorrow and tomorrow. I sometimes wonder which could be worse, the junkie, the alcoholic or no vices in service.
Sometimes I want to pull the telephone plug right from the wall. I need the vastness of space within my territory and no one to question my tantrums. They are mine alone, I created them because I do not have a gift to control what is around me. When someone says, only you can change things is unremarkable it can be as stable and motionless as a slab of concrete. Do not jump into my world like a salivating monkey. Now if you were invited, and I was gracious of your motivations, because we all are motivated in some way we could have a wonderful playday. My days are not very frivilous and I spend a lot of time writing. Interruptions bother me and I consider myself busy for nonsensical conversations. However, I can be quite the humorist when I am in my special self. I can roll with the best of them. There is no stopping me I can be a dazzling diamond, though not an addict, or an alcoholic. My drinking is as comical as two strikes, youre out! Im a natural, I just cant see drinking or getting high to have fun. Thats me, I dont need to. However, in the life I conjured up for myself, while I believe we all have a vice of steadiness in kind. My will is to handicap the ponies exclusively to the oval circuits ending the dynamics of the limitless bankroll. Each day ends with, tomorrow and tomorrow. I sometimes wonder which could be worse, the junkie, the alcoholic or no vices in service.
Sunday, March 18, 2007
Starting Somewhere
I love my cat. He is a Siamese. And I have spoiled him because he deserves it. He loves me so much and I love him. He is the only one in the whole world I share my breakfast cereal with.
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